You know - I am no expert, that's for sure. I am not even married yet.
But I have sat front row & watched a relationship crumble. And I have also sat front row & watch a relationship grow.
Today is 723.
If you know me, you know 723 is a HUGE part of my life. It always has been. It's like a lucky number to me, my favorite number, a number I see EVERYWHERE. It all started with my grandparents - it was their address & since then I swear I see it at least 2 times a day. It can be eerie at time.
So Chris & I wanted to incorporate it into our wedding date. We are getting married January 23, 2013. So we got the 23 part down but that's about it :) But our "half" anniversary is July 23 - 723 :) I think that incorporates it pretty well!
Chris & I live together - most couples before hand may have not lived with each other for many reasons. For us - it has helped us. We also had kids before hand - so that was kind of a given we'd be living together :)
I've read random things on how to keep that spark in your relationship & honestly it's all common sense. You have to WORK for it. It's not handed to you - nothing is perfect. It's like a never ending battle, but a good battle.
When you have kids it's really hard to spend time with each other - just you 2 alone. And when you don't have any family close it's even harder. But we make it work. We also have a love with social media (me) & him technology in general. Sometimes we may sit in bed together completely indulged in something else but other times it literally is just him & I. We're not perfect.
This past weekend both kids sucked at taking naps one day so we got to enjoy the evening. They both were in bed by 630pm - he grilled steaks & corn on the cob. We had a glass of wine. Together, at the dinner time, in peace. It was awesome.
We also keep a journal - he thinks I suck at keeping it because it takes me a month or two... To write back :) Yeah yeah yeah - my thought process is if I wrote every week it wouldn't be "fun" anymore.
I am not quite sure what random acts I do for him but he loves to bring me flowers, whether it be at work or at home. Secretly I think he likes the flowers at the house so that's why he gets them for "me" ;) Just kidding baby!
I'm not perfect - I have a rocky history but I don't live in my past I live now. I learn from my mistakes & move on. You have no idea how excited I am to spend forever with this man.