Your husband, your best friend

 Okay you guys - this girl might be thee coolest girl on the face of the planet, besides me of course... :) I remember starting out my blogging journey & do a drink post & I'd get a comment from this girl, 

 "Tiffany, you are killing me with these drinks." 

"Tiffany, I am still at work these look fabulous."

Every time I'd get a little email saying I had a comment & it'd be from her, I giggled. And then I found out she lived in MY state - well technically it's HER state because she has been here longer, but you get my point. 

And then we started virtual cheers on instagram to each other. 

And now we text them to each other among other fabulous conversations.

Like for example - we are planning a Palm Springs weekend getaway with our family's as long as my hubby to be gets his leave approved, sigh. 

I mean I could seriously go on about her, but I will let her do that. 

Clearly she is a gorgeous, smart girl & a very strong wife & momma.

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Hello, hello guys! I'm Kyna, and I blog over at great expectations. Can I tell you how stinkin’ excited I am to be here today…simply because I adore Tiffany! I mean, who wouldn’t like her right? She’s so freaking awesome. I seriously feel like I know her so well, just from the “keyboard” friendship we share!

But enough abut Tiffany, let’s talk about me…or more specifically, my marriage and some ways that I continually try to keep it fresh and fun, even with all of the life stresses we have. Because if your life is anywhere near as crazy and busy as mine is, I know this can be an area that often gets overlooked...sometimes until it's too late.

I love my little perfect family of 3 more than words could describe, and I love my husband so unconditionally. Our marriage is pretty awesome! Why, you may ask? Well let me tell ya…

First, let me start off my saying, I have a pretty amazing hubby…so that alone definitely helps our marriage. I know sometimes (more than sometimes) I’m not the easiest person to live with. I can be stubborn and a lot of times just plain crazy and emotional. But my hubby puts up with all of it…every day! And I love him to death for that…but we all know, that sometimes love isn’t everything. Marriage can be hard…not just sometimes…but a lot of times. Throw parenting into that mix and you can definitely have a recipe for disaster!

My hubby and I definitely do not have a picture perfect marriage. We’ve had some really hard times, but we’ve made it through. And I can definitely say one of the main things that has always kept us together is the fact that we aren’t just marriage partners…we’re best friends. I truly enjoy my husband’s company every day, just like I would with any other good friend in my life. Even when we aren’t necessarily acting “romantically in love”, we are always so comfortable with each other, can confide in each other, and love each other’s company. When you can truly call your spouse your best friend, you have an amazing bond that sticks through the rough times when romantic love might not have been enough.

I think another thing that always helps us, is the effort we make to do things with each other and truly enjoy life together. My hubby and I truly WANT to hang out and do things together. We enjoy each other. I happen to personally know quite a few married couples who just don’t make the effort to go out and spend one on one time with their spouses. And most of those couples blame it on the fact that they have kids. Yes, we’re lucky…we have family in town, so going out for “date night” is usually fairly easy for us, but I also know a lot of people who use a lack of a sitter as an excuse, when it really shouldn’t be. Even if we didn’t have family around, we would try to utilize our friends or even just suck it up and find an affordable babysitter, even just once in awhile, so that we could go out alone. Not just because it’s healthy for our marriage (which it totally is!), but also, because we both really WANT to hang out together. We truly, truly enjoy each others company. If you aren’t making the effort to plan something and spend some quality time with JUST your spouse (no kids, no friends…just you two) at least once a month then find a way to do it! If you really can’t find a sitter, then plan a date night at home once the kids are in bed. Learn to enjoy each other’s company…learn to not just be marriage partners, but also friends that can hang out, laugh, and have fun together.

Oh, and hey, a few thoughtful gestures go a long way as well. I like to send thoughtful texts to my husband throughout the day. Or leave post it notes on his car window. Or bake cookies for him, for no particular reason (and we all know a way to a man’s heart is through his belly!)

 

So there you have it folks! Just a few ways that we like to keep our marriage fun, and alive, and toddler proof (yeah, you gotta watch out for that…kids can become so consuming that a marriage can just fade away in the midst of all the parenting stress).

What do you do to keep you marriage fresh?

So thanks again Tiff, for having me here today! I hope everyone has a wonderful day! (oh and come visit me and say hello...I love meeting new people!)

xoxo, Kyna